If you and/or your spouse are experiencing emotional distress such as guilt, or difficulty fully trusting, that is not surprising. Once the honeymoon period is over and real life sets in, there is more space to reflect upon what has happened. Questions can arise that may be difficult to process together without assistance. You may also be experiencing difficulties with children, extended family members, friends and/or colleagues who all have their own reactions to what has happened.
It’s not true that relationships that start as affairs never work out. Some do. But it is true that there is frequently built-in stress when infidelity is at the root of the relationship. Couples counseling provides an opportunity to work through these issues together in a safe, welcoming and non-judgmental space.
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have been helping couples and individuals navigate difficulties in relationships for 31 years. I can be contacted at (415) 751-6515 or (925) 948-0562 or at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please leave some good times to reach you in person. If you live outside of the San Francisco Bay Area, please go to the Links page on this blog where you can find a geographical listing of therapists who work effectively with affairs.