Sometimes it gets to a point where it becomes extremely stressful keeping the secret as well as meeting the demands that maintaining two relationships require. You might feel desperate for someone to be able to tell you whether you should leave your marriage or end your affair. You also may feel uncomfortable discussing your situation with friends and family, or if you do, they might give simplistic answers that don’t feel helpful. I can help you to explore and understand your dilemma on a deeper level. While the answer to this question might feel like an emergency that needs to be resolved right away, the paralysis you are experiencing is an indicator that the matter is not quite that simple.
If you would like help exploring your situation to get to what is most real for you, please feel free to contact me at (415) 751-6515 or (925) 457-2822. You may also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist with 31 years of experience assisting individuals and couples with their relationships. If you live outside of the San Francisco Bay Area, you can find a geographical listing of therapists who are especially effective with affairs on my “Links” page. I also offer tele-therapy for individuals.