The following discussion is not meant to imply that all members of a particular culture experience affairs in any particular way.
Extramarital affairs are most frequently experienced as completely traumatic and immoral in the United States. If a public figure strays from their marriage they are frequently disgraced and followers and fans can feel tremendously let down and disillusioned. If this person holds public office, their capacity to lead is frequently questioned, as is their entire character. A spouse who discovers a partner’s affair frequently breaks down emotionally.
In some European countries affairs are experienced slightly differently. There is a sense that affairs happen frequently; political figures involved in them are not vilified by the majority of the population. A spouse who discovers an affair may be outraged, hurt and sad, but might not have a full-fledged traumatic reaction.
In some middle eastern countries women can be stoned to death for having an affair.
Jewish people tend to consider affairs a non-Jewish problem.
In fundamentalist religious cultures of many varieties the idea of having sinned is an added trauma to the one occurring in the relationship.
In some Central American countries it is fairly commonplace for married men of means to maintain a mistress in her own “casita.”
Some cultures consider it the role of the woman to “hold on to her man” and the affair a reflection on her failure to do so.
You might want to read more in depth about Asian Americans and affairs.
How do you believe your cultural background has influenced your beliefs and experiences of affairs? Are you in a multi-ethnic relationship? If so, has that lead to problems regarding fidelity?
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